Thu, Aug 6

The Value of the Quiet Leader

I recently completed a cross country bicycle ride to commemorate the 25th anniversary of 9-11, raise $100,000 for the Tunnel To Towers Foundation, and to honor the memory of my little sister Katie McGarry Noack, who we lost at Windows on the World on the 107th floor of the North Tower in NYC on that day. On my ride, I encountered a team member who represented the very best of the value of the "Quiet Leader." In fact, I likely would never have completed my goal were it not for the support of this Quiet Leader- Jeff Reed of Microsoft in Seattle. I would like to share my thoughts with this group.

The Quiet Leader

On every successful team, there is often a quiet leader.

Not the one with the title. Not the one standing in front. But the one who shows up โ€” again and again โ€” for others.

The one who notices when someone is strugglingโ€ฆ and gently steps in without making a show of it. The one who teaches, not to impress, but so that others can stand a little taller the next time. The one who gives of themselves in ways that often go unseen.

There is a humility to that kind of leadership. A quiet strength. A generosity of spirit.

And it exists alongside the more visible kind of leadership โ€” the kind that makes decisions, keeps things moving, and carries the weight of responsibility. Both are necessary. Both matter. But itโ€™s often the quiet leader who shapes the soul of a team.

On this bicycle ride across America, Iโ€™ve had the privilege of riding alongside someone like that.

He could ride circles around most of us without breaking a sweat. But thatโ€™s not what defines him. What defines him is what he does when someone else is hurting.

After 70 miles in punishing West Texas heat, when your legs are heavy and your patience is thin, heโ€™s the one crouched beside you, helping fix a flat tire when there are still 25 miles left to go.

On a day off, when most people would rest, heโ€™s in the corner of a small hotel, patiently walking me through the parts of a bike โ€” teaching, explaining, encouraging โ€” never rushing, never condescending.

And on those long climbs โ€” the kind that test not just your legs but your will โ€” heโ€™s the one who pulls up beside you and reminds you, in the simplest and most profound way:

โ€œ๐™’๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™š๐™ก๐™จ๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ก๐™™ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™ง๐™–๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง ๐™—๐™š? ๐™’๐™š ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™ง๐™ž๐™™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™—๐™ž๐™˜๐™ฎ๐™˜๐™ก๐™š๐™จ ๐™–๐™˜๐™ง๐™ค๐™จ๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™š๐™™ ๐™Ž๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ฉ๐™š๐™จ. ๐™ƒ๐™ค๐™ฌ ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ค๐™ก ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ?โ€

He doesnโ€™t seek recognition. In fact, I suspect he quietly avoids it. But he finds joy in watching others push through, grow stronger, and rediscover their own sense of possibility.

That kind of personโ€ฆ they are the glue.

Iโ€™ve known a few people like this in my life, especially in the business world.

Youโ€™d find them on project teams โ€” the steady presence, the unspoken leader, the one everyone trusted without needing to say it out loud. They were rare. And once you recognized them, you understood something important: you donโ€™t take people like that for granted.

You appreciate them. You protect them. And if you acknowledge them, you do it in a way that respects who they are โ€” because theyโ€™re not doing it for applause. Theyโ€™re doing it because itโ€™s who they are. Itโ€™s woven into them. Itโ€™s part of their DNA.

And out here, over the course of these 44 days, Iโ€™ve been reminded just how powerful that kind of quiet leadership can be.

I feel lucky โ€” truly lucky โ€” to be riding alongside one of them.

Thank you Jeff Reed.

#SeattleJeff #Gratitude

Patrick McGarry

August 6th, 2026

Ponte Vedra Beach, Florida

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